It's been a hard 2 weeks......

The past 2 weeks has sucked!!! Lock, oh LOCK!!! He is my 11 year old, He is a aggressive, angry, defiant, disrespectful, brat!!! He started this year at a new school because we moved. Since then he is in detention every other day, has been suspended once already with warnings of more to come, If I try to spank his ass, he tells me "I'll call the cops on you", So then I ground him to his room. He WILL NOT stay in there, I am constantly telling him "get in your room" every 5 minutes. He will yell "LET ME OUT", over and over, He punches his wall, cries ,"WHY" he asks, HMMMM because you did something wrong and there are repercussions in life. Lock was teased when he was younger by bullies, This has now turned him into one. He talks back, always makes a comments, has to have the last word, argues when he is wrong. Teases his brother and sisters. So to add to misery my mother is a drunk!!! My mother is all those things and more. For some fucked up reason I had chosen to allow my mother to live with me for 10 of my 13 years of marriage.That has come to an end!!!! I regret it everyday. Everyone says I am close to my mom. Really I am not, the only reason I would be close to my mom is because she lived with me. I DO NOT feel I have this connection with her. She is just my mom. I try to talk to her to get some type of normal answers, but the I regret every time I calling her and end up even more pissed off. She is fuel to my fire. I blame my mother for the reason Lock is the way he is. He is tarnish for life. My mother tells me Lock gets blame for EVERYTHING, Yes she exaggerates big time. EVERY TIME. Maybe it's because he IS DOING SOMETHING!!!! Not because I am picking on him. I have caught my mother going against my rules, whispering in there ears probably bribing them with something they want, giving them things I was never asked if they could have, etc...This is not a normal grandma that comes to visit, and bring gifts once a year. Enough on that.... So if & when something happens at school I asks Lock what happened. The story I get is like why did he even get in trouble that was nothing, Also when he explains it it never makes sense and I have to dissect it, just to try to understand, Then when I talk to the adults he says he never says half the things they are saying he said. So yesterday he tells me at recess he and his friend were playing on those jungle gym thingies, His friend accidentally kick him in his chest, so the aid comes over as he is lying in the ground and asks him what happen, he tell her what happen and then that was the end of it right, Bell rings!! He and his friends walk over to the blue chips ( where the kids go when the bell rings, for their class room) So the aid comes over again to ask what happened and while she was talking to him, I guess the sun was beaming on his neck so he turned his back and spits, (he is sick and has a chest full of congestion so I told him he has to spit that shit out) NOT on the ground OK!! SO she freaks out and tells him he has detention for being disrespectful, OK fine whatever right... He gets to detention on his lunch recess(I just found this out not after school) So as he is in detention QUIET he is told to do standards (writing a sentence over and over again) That is "I WILL NOT BE DISRESPECTFUL". So he starts doing it. I,I,I,I.... all down the page, Then WILL,WILL,WILL......all down the page. Now for some fucking reason she comes over to him, HE NEVER said NO or complained. She gets pissed off because hi is not doing it how she wants him to do it....WHAT!!!From right to left. So Locks like then I am not doing it!!! I won't either why does it fucking matter as long as i get done. No matter what he is getting the concept of it, still read it as it is written, understanding it. She calls the Principal Mrs Sour and this bitch is sour. She gives him an EXTRA day of detention because he got pissed off. OK if they would have left him alone, and let him do what he was doing everything would have been fine. I personally think he has labeled himself as a problem so any chance they have they are going to fuck him over................